Wedding Planning Exercise: Who Should Be Invited To Our Wedding?
One of the top ways to save money in wedding planning is by trimming your guest count. How do you determine who stays and who goes when it comes to your guest list?
Let’s do an exercise!
You’ll need the following:
- You (that’s a given)
- Your partner
- Your parents (or siblings or friends or whoever you’re close to)
- Your partner’s parents (or siblings or friends or whoever they’re close to)
- Pencils and paper for everyone
First, without looking at anyone’s paper, have each person write down the people that are important in their lives, no matter whose side of the family they’re on or how you know them. This could be the ones they share memories with, gossip with, talk to regularly, see everyday… Only write down the people that you share special things about your life with.
Once everyone’s finished, grab a new piece of paper. Compare the names on you and your partner’s list first. On the new sheet of paper, write down the names that pop up on both lists. (You can discuss for this part.) Those are people that you should definitely invite to share your story with!
Now, expand the new list with those from your close relatives and friends. The more repetition of names that come up, the more likely you should keep them at the top of your invited list! Have a discussion about extended family members, friends, and co-workers and whether they should be invited. Ask questions like:
- Was this person there for my last important milestone (high school graduation, new baby, first car, 21st birthday, etc.)?
- Do they send me birthday cards/tag me in Facebook birthday posts/shoot me a Bitmoji birthday text?
- Do I speak with them regularly?
- Do they care about me? (If the answer’s no, I don’t care if they’re blood-related, DON’T invite them. This is just calling for drama on your wedding day.)
- Am I worried that this person is only there for the free alcohol? (If the answer is yes, they’re planning on getting trashed at your wedding. Uninvite immediately: drama will follow if invited.)
As you do this exercise with your loved ones, you’ll be able to trim out the weeds from your guest-list garden!
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